Why our Marriage and Wedding were Different

One year since we celebrated.

Two years of marriage.

Eight years of long distance.

Ten years together.

When we got married in 2018 and celebrated it a year later, it was unusual. Due to Marcus’s job, we didn’t have time to plan a celebration before he left, but we wanted to close the distance for good (as much as a couple can, anyway, when he travels bi-weekly for work).

Now because of COVID, I think more people are considering this as an option, so I wanted to share some of our thoughts from the experience.

We felt that already being married for the wedding relieved some stress we might have felt, had we not already been married.

To us, marriage is the important part, and the wedding is an extra bonus. 

Luckily, our wedding, and all the planning, went pretty smoothly (even with me overseas part of the time), but I did need to remind myself occasionally that it’s just a celebration. Having the marriage and the wedding separate helped me differentiate the two. The celebration isn’t an indicator of our love for each other or the successfulness of our future marriage. Reminding myself of these facts allowed me to let go of some stress and fully appreciate the day.

Have you, or have you considered, getting married and celebrating it later?

Published by Sarah C. Gilbert

I help ladies eat better and workout consistently. I'm married to my high school sweetheart; we were in a long distance relationship for 8 years before getting married, and even now are still occasionally in a long distance relationship. I love sunshine/warmth, cute dogs, working out, motivational quotes, spending time with my husband, and cooking. Follow me on Instagram: @SarahGilbertFitness

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